Q: How does The Mediation Mentor® work?
A: The Mediation Mentor (Laurel Young) works with each individual or side to identify what brought them to the mediation by first exploring their own individual truth. This happens by identifying and negotiating their beliefs about the situation using their value guidelines. The mediator then facilitates a conversation between the parties about the conflict and supports ongoing discussion to reach an agreement with mutual understanding, agreement and action when necessary. The mediator does not fix anything or play lawyer, judge, counselor or take sides.
Q: How is The Mediation Mentor different from therapy? From coaching?
A: Coaching is a relationship with a client that provides training, advice and guidance with specific instructions to achieve a specific goal or desire. Therapy is provided by trained licensed professionals to deal with the mental and behavioral characteristics of an issue by going to the past and reliving and dissecting the emotional traumas and dramas experienced by an individual. The Mediation Mentor acts as a neutral advocate to facilitate understanding and the underlying truth of a situation in the present and then facilitates understanding, communication, solutions and agreements. I can also assist in the removal of unwanted re-occurring emotions that keep conflict in motion.
Q: What people do The Mediation Mentor work with most often?
A: Teens, adults, families, business and group interactions. Examples:
- Setting up family agreements through discussion and then putting acceptance into written agreements (rules, house duty descriptions, etc.) to create family consistency, order and peace.
- The business community finds this process illuminating for mitigating office conflict, fostering teamwork, implementing change and creating new market strategies.
- Home Owner Associations and organizations find it invaluable in creating independence from the board of directors or the governing body.
- Anyone from ages 2-110 who wants to get rid of nagging emotional dramas and traumas.
Q: How do people benefit from The Mediation Mentor?
A: Lives dramatically improve with increased freedom, less anxiety and more happiness when people choose to enter and use the process. Learning this process of mediation skills through modeling applies to all areas of life as well!
Q: What issues and challenges can be addressed using The Mediation Mentor?
A: Most problems, confusion or misunderstanding can be resolved by using the Mediation Mentor model. Miscommunication and misunderstandings usually arise when confusion results from inner self-talk and/or emotions like anger, anxiety and fear. If I cannot help, I will tell you so.
Q: How are The Mediation Mentor sessions conducted?
A: Sessions are conducted in person, by telephone, or online. Many of my clients are out of town.
Q: How much time does it take to reach an agreement?
A: Traditional mediation for conflict resolution between two parties takes as little as 15 minutes and as long as 2 or more hours. The average two-party mediation takes about 45 minutes to an hour from start to written agreement. Additional time may be needed when clients want to dig deeper into a discussion and resolve multiple hidden issues in their personal, family or business situation. You will dictate the time and need.
Q: Is there anything I have to do to prepare before we meet for the session?
A: We will decide what forms you will need to complete so that we can have a productive time together. You will complete and send them to me prior to our first session.
Q: What’s an example of how you help people in conflict?
A: Group or two-party mediation: We begin by briefly discussing what brought them to the mediation session. I allow each individual to share the values, feelings and interests they hold as their truth. Sometimes I will momentarily stop the session and meet with each side individually to help them gain personal clarity and then bring both back together to resume the discussion.
After each side has had the opportunity to present their stories, I will reframe what I think I heard and ask questions to facilitate a discussion. We will go back and forth in discussion to allow each party to respectfully express concerns, feelings, opinions and possible compromises until they reach a mutually acceptable decision.
If no agreement can be reached, then each person will understand the agreement to respect and move forward in life without holding grudges and anger. This is called agreeing to disagree.
Single person mediation: We follow the same routine allowing for the disclosure and then go into discussing issues, needs, desires, confusions, solutions and a workable conclusion with clarity. We can write up an action plan to assist you in manifesting your desired agreement with yourself.
Q: Why do you have the option of using “Emotional Resolution” in your mediations?
A: Emotional Resolution removes fears, traumas and emotional blocks instantly and permanently. It can be applied in mediation with agreement from both parties or in private session to remove past emotional-sensorial programming. Done ” at the moment” will often unblock the trigger that is driving the conflict.
Often, it is the sensorial emotions that block the mediation process from moving forward with ease. Emotional resolution is especially helpful in family and close relationship mediations where you feel safe. In other situations, a separate appointment may be necessary to resolve the emotion presented during the mediation session.
Q: How is including Emotional Resolution useful in the middle of a mediation?
A: Removing the emotional trigger held by one party during a mediation session “in the moment” allows the forward movement into mutual understanding and will impact their ability to be open to discussion. Often the trigger that arose in this disagreement has a root cause from the past and is not even associated with this person or this particular situation! Eliminating a returning ghost of past pain, trauma or an emotional block at the moment is often seen as a gift that keeps on giving.
Q: How much does a Mediation session cost?
A: The charge is $75.00-$95.00 per hour. Permanent removal of an ongoing emotional issue is available and may require a separate Emotional Resolution session at a cost of $97. Scholarships are available and will be determined on a case basis. Other offerings are available in Services under fees.
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